Spanking adds a rush of excitement and thrill to playtime, and here at Pillow Talk, we’re here to give you the lowdown on the right way to spank. Spanking can be done using your hand or an object to slap against the skin. This increases circulation in the area being spanked, heightening sensitivity. Spanking can complement pleasurable sensations and doesn’t have to be painful.
Enjoyed in role play, during intercourse for an endorphin rush, or as a punishment in some BDSM play, spanking is a versatile act! Before jumping in and surprising your partner or playmate with a spank, ensure you discuss it first. Communication is key before trying something new, as spanking could trigger traumatic memories or experiences for someone, leading to a different reaction than what you were hoping for.
Communication and Safety
The first thing to do when experimenting or trying anything new is to set a safe word. A safe word is a word that, when either party says it, means you must immediately stop. Secondly, discuss your scenario and set clear boundaries. This ensures both parties are comfortable and can fully enjoy the experience. Always start slow and gauge your partner’s reaction, adjusting your approach as needed.
Starting with Your Hand
We recommend using your hand to try spanking first. Start with light, upward motions with your hand slightly cupped. This allows you to control the impact and gradually increase the intensity. When taking aim, it’s best to spank areas that are fleshy, such as the butt cheeks, the back of the thighs, and the “thutt” (the area where the bottom of the bum cheek meets the top of the thigh). These areas are cushioned well to receive impact, and spanking here sends ripples of sensation through to sensitive areas like the genitals.
Areas to Avoid
There are certain areas you should never spank: above the waist, over joints such as the back of knees, over the spine, or the abdominal area. Spanking in these areas is very dangerous and can cause serious injury, so good aim is super important. Always ensure you are targeting safe areas to maintain a pleasurable experience.
Building Anticipation
Once comfortable with spanking, try varying the power of the strikes, frequency, and placement to spread the sensation and create heightened suspense. Building anticipation between the spanks is what many people find most exciting. Incorporate different rhythms and intensities to keep your partner guessing and enhance the overall experience. This can also help build a deeper connection and trust between partners.
Introducing Toys
Once you’re ready to introduce a toy, explore our extensive range of spankers, whips, and paddles. Each type of toy offers a different sensation, from the sharp sting of a whip to the thuddy impact of a paddle. Experimenting with different objects and textures can add a new dimension to your play. Always start with lighter strikes and gradually increase intensity as you and your partner become more comfortable.
Final Tips
- Start Slowly: Begin with gentle spanks and gradually increase the intensity.
- Check-In: Regularly check in with your partner to ensure they are comfortable and enjoying the experience.
- Use Aftercare: After a spanking session, provide aftercare by soothing the spanked area with gentle touches or a cooling lotion. This helps maintain trust and ensures a positive experience.
- Practice Aim: Good aim is crucial to avoid areas that could cause harm. Practicing on a pillow or cushion can help improve your accuracy.
By following these tips and communicating openly with your partner, you can enjoy the exciting and pleasurable sensations that spanking has to offer, enhancing your intimate moments.
