We all love stories with happy endings and associate relationships with magical sensations and unending desires for each other. But over time people come to find that the spark in their relationship has faded and find themselves asking what to do when the spark has gone?
Even though people go into relationships for different reasons, they are more than certain to encounter ups and downs because romantic relationships have ‘compartments'.
These compartments I just mentioned are like onion rings, literally and figuratively, because each peel can cause a dip in the relationship or spur magical moments that keep the spark glowing.
Most people struggle to fathom how and why their passionate relationships turn into laborious and less exciting situations with little or no romance.
It is normal for relationships to flame out because staying in love requires commitment and reciprocated energy that most people assume as they get comfortable.
Do not worry if you find yourself in such a situation because we will understand your situation together and explore the tips you can use to reignite the spark in your relationship.
Relationship Spark and how to tell it may have gone.
Often, at the inception of a relationship, most people fail to understand the source of their spark.
Spark, usually emotional and physiological, makes you desire your partner and helps you establish an intimate connection.
Spark is also the specific things that transform a first meeting and flame into a relationship.
It changes because relationships evolve with time based on several uncertainties in life.
You will know the spark has diminished or even non-existent if you begin wondering about the relationship and feel lonely.
These usually happen because we fail to create time for our partners and adopt excuses to cover for the missed plans.
Comfort also brews monotony, which is detrimental to a functional relationship because it can lead to dissonance.
This can also happen when you or your partner feels stuck in a routine without activities that create room for spontaneity.
Less and even fewer arguments should also worry you because healthy relationships rely on communication and arguments to validate your feelings for each other.
The spark can also be gone if you feel less inclined to try new and random things with your partner.
If you feel a drop in your sexual desire and longing for an erotic experience within your relationship, you can be certain that the spark is flaming out.
Spark also declines if you and your partner stop appreciating each other or the efforts you put into making the relationship work.
Lack of gratitude among couples can transform lively relationships into roommates committed to other responsibilities.
Breaking your partner’s trust ranks high on the list of things that can kill a relationship.
Dishonesty and infidelity lead to the list of things that break relationships alongside poor communication.
So, what can you do to rekindle the flame?
Rekindling the Spark and Bringing Intimacy Back
Do not feel lost or inadequate about a fading spark because listening and speaking to your partner is the most simple solution.
Communication can help you discover, understand, and resolve some of the underlying problems in your relationship.
It may not happen immediately, but becoming a better listener is a good starting point for deepening your connection with your partner.
You can also share light secrets about your emotions to show your partner that you trust them and remain committed to what you share.
Reinstating surprises and all the romantic gestures that brought you two together while exploring new ones can also restore your intimacy as a love language that both of you understand.
If unsure, ask your partner because people are different and want to be loved differently.
Verbal expression of love is a proven affirmation that works for many compared to grand gestures that can appear too much for some.
Focus more on spending time together doing fun things and reminding your bodies of the glory days with touch.
Trying new things together can also help you break the monotony of repetitive relationship acts that breed staleness. Here are some activities you can explore with your spouse:
- Playing games or an outdoor sport
- Redecorating your home
- Volunteering in community activities
- Going on secret dates
- Vacationing
- Taking up new dancing classes
Nothing makes a relationship work better than renewed sexual attraction.
The activities we mention and a little playfulness can rush your adrenaline and create feelings that make your heartstrings throb again for your partner.
While at it, you can make it more interesting by introducing spontaneity.
Remove the usual ‘when and how’ approaches to make sex more captivating for you and your partner.
You can also give one another time and, while at it, revisit where you first met to reboot your relationship.
If you feel overwhelmed, contacting a marriage counsellor for professional guidance on revitalising your spark is okay.
In essence, rekindling your spark with a loved one is about communication, falling in love again, eliminating internal and external challenges to your relationship, and taking care of each other while appreciating the little things you share in every milestone.
Above all, remember to love yourself first because you cannot pour from an empty cup; you can only rekindle the spark if you are happy and feel wanted.
