Intimate pleasure comes in different ways for different people. What might titillate one person’s taste buds may do the opposite for another.
On our sexual journey, we’re hunting to satisfy our own sexual appetites, and while many of us know how to feed our fetishes, it’s always interesting to explore something new.
One of the more taboo subjects in the world of sexual pleasure is rimming. Also known as “analingus”, it tends to be more common within the gay community.
However, heterosexual couples do indulge in the practice, too, spicing up their bedroom antics and discovering new realms of passion.
Although it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, rimming can be incredibly arousing for both partners, enhancing their connection and bringing something new and exciting into a relationship.
It can be a way of strengthening their bond due to the intimate nature of the act or a way of finding new ways to tease and please their lover.
But if you’ve never tried it before, where do you even begin?
What Is Rimming?
Firstly, let’s address the elephant in the room. Yes, rimming is the act of licking the anus of a partner for sexual gratification. Not your thing? That’s OK.
We don’t all have to be into the same sexual fetishes, and what turns one person on may not necessarily get their lover’s motor running.
We’re all different, and we need to embrace what makes us tick.
But if you’ve ever considered it, are interested in the how and why, or are just curious about educating yourself on the subject, read on…
Let’s Talk Technique
The physical act of rimming involves running the tongue, lips and mouth up and down your lover’s anus.
Often, the licking motion can be enhanced with circular tongue motions and even moving the sensations around the perineum and testicles for his pleasure.
Your tongue is a magic thing, and the way you use it can make this intimate act even more incredible.
Most people will go straight in and rim around the anus itself in a continuous licking motion. Spice it up! Try different shapes and patterns.
Try a downward motion instead of a regular upward licking motion. Go side to side, round and round, even diagonal. Draw out shapes like zig-zags, crosses and circles.
Think of your tongue as a sex toy. It would be a little boring if it only had one vibration pattern.
Your tongue has a wide range of movements suited to licking that ass, so experiment to find out what works best.
Inviting the bum cheeks to the party can also bring vast amounts of pleasure.
Caress them and kiss them, maybe adding some little nibbles during your experience for that saucy BDSM touch.
Breathe over their skin, run the tongue across their body and use your mouth to tease their delicate areas.
By spending time exploring their body down below it’ll keep them guessing what’s coming next and keep them in the moment.
It can feel incredibly erotic when being rimmed, so it’s totally fine if you’re only into one side of it, whether that be a giver or a receiver.
Even if you’re not a rimmer, I can guarantee you’ll enjoy the sensations the Rimmee experiences!
Hygiene And Etiquette
Hygiene is generally a big deal for those looking to rim or be rimmed. It’s a good idea to have a shower or at least clean your booty before going down there. It eliminates any unwanted odour and is just good manners.
Douching is a good idea too, as it helps to keep your rear asset squeaky, inside and out. But a warning for you: don’t go overboard!
If you’re a regular receiver of the tongue, you don’t need to douche on a daily basis.
Once you have douched, allow your anus to relax afterwards so that it can expel any excess water before the rimming fun begins.
If you’re hairy down there, consider whether you would prefer to be smooth. Shaving isn’t essential, and some people prefer the hair.
Still, for others, hair can get caught in the teeth (not nice to imagine, but yes, it happens), so a smooth butt can alleviate this problem and give your partner a clearer view of your hole, helping them to target the sweet spots much more easily.
It can also simplify the clear up process after the fireworks are over, allowing you to just wipe any remaining lubricant away.
We can often get lost in the moment during a passionate night of sex, so it’s also important to protect ourselves and remember to play safely, especially if we have a new partner or swap partners regularly.
Although the partner being rimmed is relatively at low risk of any STDs, the risks are greater for the rimmer, so it’s important to stay alert to any changes down below and to remember to get tested regularly.
Shigella can be traced back to the act of rimming, so make sure to seek medical help if you experience any symptoms. This will generally be picked up if you’re being tested regularly.
Lubricants and Dental Dams
If you’re finding having your mouth down there too much or you’re worried about STDs from a new partner, there is a solution!
Dental dams are amazingly useful for those who want to pleasure their partner in this way but struggle to get into the mindset or don’t want to put their mouth directly onto their partner’s bottom.
Simply place the dental dam over their backdoor passage and get that tongue and mouth working, listening to their squeals of glee.
If you’ve chosen a flavoured dental dam, you can enjoy the sweet taste of chocolate, strawberry or vanilla, too!
If you’re a lover of desserts, why not combine your rimming play with some squirty cream and enjoy a bonus sweet treat?
The cream will act similarly to a rimming lubricant, letting your mouth and tongue glide up and down effortlessly.
Speaking of lubricants, there are a variety of rimming lubes (or Greek Kiss lubes) which help to create a sensual and arousing experience for all involved.
Usually having a water-based formula (so easy to clean up), they often have a flavour to them, such as mint or strawberry, helping to mask any unwanted tastes and, at the same time, creating a tingling sensation.
But if you haven’t got a rimming lube available, regular flavoured water-based lubricants will do the trick and can help to enhance your experience more than without using one.
The Next Steps
So you’ve found your ideal introduction to rimming, and you’re ready to go, but how do you break it to your partner?
Firstly, never pressure them into anything they don’t want to do. Not only will it have a detrimental effect on your relationship, but it could push you apart and intimacy in other areas could suffer.
It’s important to take things at a pace you are both comfortable with.
Break it to them casually.
Explain to them that there’s something new that you would like to explore a little more in the bedroom, and you’d love to explore it with them. They are your person, and you want to share this intimate moment together.
Remember that sex is supposed to be fun and pleasurable and not confined to rigid restraints.
Think about incorporating rimming into different sexual activities to further enhance your sexy time.
Perhaps use it in addition to penetrative sex or create a mood with bondage restraints and compromising positions (all consensual, of course!).
Taking Things Further
If you and your partner find that you are completely sold on the concept of rimming and you’re ready to take things further, special dungeon furniture is available to buy, opening up a new world of rimming.
“Queening”, “Kinging”, or “rimming” stools are a way of taking your face-sitting fun to new levels.
As the name suggests, they are usually a type of stool where one partner can sit with their head underneath, staring up at the partner’s magical tush, which allows them to get easy access to the most important areas.
They can take the stress of any uncomfortable positions that may be required by participants, giving them a super easy way to get access to their ass!
Rimming stools can come in various shapes, sizes and materials.
Beginner versions are often inflatable, are perfect for easy, discreet storage and are usually very affordable for those looking to explore it for the first time.
At the same time, more advanced models are made from steel and are very heavy-duty. Many of these dungeon-style models can also be used in conjunction with restraints to take things further for full-on forced anal worship!
Rimming can be a powerful tool when it comes to pleasure.
Using just your mouth, tongue and lips, you now have the secret to being able to use them in a way that sends your partner into a state of pure ecstasy.
With varied motions from the tongue, Greek Kiss lubricants and tips and tricks to take your rimming adventure even further, you’re ready to explore new and deeper areas of sexual gratification.
Go, have fun and explore. You can thank me later…
