Top Tips for Dirty Talk

Top Tips for Dirty Talk

John Rushton |

How to Get Naughty with Words 🔥💬

Let’s face it: dirty talk is a total game-changer in the bedroom!

The right words can turn up the heat, heighten arousal, and make your intimate moments even more electric.

But if you’re new to dirty talk (or just feeling a little shy about it), it can seem intimidating to know exactly what to say or how to say it without feeling awkward.

The good news? Dirty talk doesn’t have to be complicated or cringe.

With the right approach, it’s all about boosting confidence, sparking connection, and amplifying pleasure.

Ready to unlock your inner sexy whisperer? Here are the top tips to get you started on mastering the art of dirty talk.

Start Slow and Keep It Simple

If you’re not used to dirty talk, there’s no need to dive headfirst into raunchy territory. Ease into it by starting with simple, sexy comments that feel natural.

Think of it as dipping your toes in the water; you don’t have to go all-in immediately. Start with flirty, sensual phrases to build confidence and test the waters.

Example:

  • “I love the way you feel against me.”
  •  “You’re driving me crazy right now.”


Starting slow also allows you to figure out what you’re comfortable saying and what excites your partner. From there, you can build up the intensity.

Be Genuine and Use Your Own Voice

One of the best things about dirty talk? It’s all about being real and in the moment. Don’t worry about sounding like an adult film star or memorising a list of one-liners.

The sexiest thing you can do is speak from the heart (or the libido!) and say what you’re genuinely feeling.

Flirty tip: Keep it authentic! If you’re genuinely turned on, let your words reflect that. Your partner will love hearing how much you’re into them.

Example:

  • “You feel so good inside me.”
  • “I can’t stop thinking about how sexy you are.”


When you’re true to your own style and comfort level, your dirty talk will feel more natural, and you’ll be able to relax and enjoy it more.

Describe What You’re Doing (or About to Do)

If you’re unsure what to say, here’s an easy tip: describe what’s happening right now.

It doesn’t have to be elaborate; simply narrating your actions can add an extra layer of eroticism to your experience.

This keeps you grounded in the here and now, making it easier to connect with your partner.

Example:

  • “I’m going to kiss you all over.”
  • “I love watching you touch yourself like that.”


Describing your intentions or actions builds anticipation and keeps the excitement flowing. Plus, it lets your partner know exactly what you want, which can be a huge turn-on.

Play with Compliments and Praise

Who doesn’t love a sexy compliment? Dirty talk can be about hyping up your partner and letting them know how irresistible they are.

Compliments focusing on their body, movements, or how they make you feel are golden.

Flirty praise ideas:

  • “You’re making me so wet/hard right now.”
  • “I can’t get enough of you.”
  • “You look so sexy when you do that.”


Mixing in praise during the act can boost both of your confidence levels and make the whole experience feel hotter.

Use Sensory Language to Build Intensity

Want to ramp up the heat? Dive into the sensory language! Describe how things feel, taste, or sound to paint a vivid picture in your partner’s mind.

Using sensory words makes dirty talk more immersive and sensual, taking the experience to the next level.

Example:

  • “I love the way your skin feels against mine.”
  • “You taste so sweet. I need more of you.”


The more descriptive you are, the more it heightens the mood and builds anticipation for what’s to come.

Make It Interactive

Dirty talk is a two-way street, so don’t be afraid to get your partner involved.

Asking questions or encouraging them to talk back can add a playful dynamic to the moment and create even deeper intimacy.

Plus, it’s a great way to gauge what your partner enjoys without putting them on the spot.

Flirty questions to try:

  • “Do you like it when I do this?”
  • “Tell me what you want me to do to you next.”
  • “How does that feel?”


Asking questions shows you care about their pleasure, which only makes things hotter for both of you. And hearing their answers can give you all kinds of inspiration for your next move!

Take It Beyond the Bedroom

Dirty talk doesn’t have to be reserved for the bedroom, it can be an amazing way to tease and build anticipation throughout the day.

A flirty text or whispered comment can keep the excitement simmering long before you’re between the sheets.

Sexting examples:

  • “I can’t stop thinking about how much I want you tonight.”
  • “You have no idea what I’m going to do to you when we get home.”


Building sexual tension through dirty talk outside of the bedroom will make the eventual payoff that much sweeter.

Embrace the Power of Silence

Here’s a little secret: you don’t have to fill every second with words. Sometimes, a well-timed pause or a breathy moan can speak louder than any phrase.

Don’t be afraid to let the moment build with silence or vocalise your pleasure with a gasp, a groan, or a long exhale.

Example:

  • A whispered “oh my god” followed by a pause can be incredibly powerful.

It’s all about letting your body language, breath, and sounds convey your pleasure, which can be just as erotic as anything you could say out loud.

Find Your Rhythm and Pace

Just like in physical intimacy, rhythm matters when it comes to dirty talk.

There’s no need to rush through it or feel like you have to keep talking non-stop. Let your words ebb and flow with the pace of what’s happening between you.

It creates a natural, intimate connection that makes everything feel smooth and sexy.

Hot tip: Take pauses between sentences to build suspense and let the words linger. A slower pace can make your dirty talk feel more intimate and impactful.

Don’t Be Afraid to Get Creative

If you’re feeling bold, why not get a little creative with your dirty talk? Role-playing scenarios, fantasies, or using naughty nicknames can add an element of fun and adventure.

The more you explore, the more you’ll find what gets both of you excited.

Flirty examples:

  • “I want you to bend me over like a bad girl/boy.”
  • “Tell me your fantasy, I want to make it come true.”


Getting creative with dirty talk keeps things fresh and adds an extra layer of excitement to your encounters.

Own Your Dirty Talk Confidence

Dirty talk is all about finding what works for you and your partner and having fun with it!

The more you practice, the more confident and comfortable you’ll become.

Just remember: it’s all about staying present, tuning into each other, and letting your words flow naturally.

So, go ahead and whisper those naughty little secrets, shower your partner with compliments, and describe exactly what’s on your mind.

With these tips, you’ll be a dirty talk pro in no time, and your partner will be begging for more. 🔥💋