Orgasms are evidence that we experience enhanced pleasurable sensations during sexual stimulation.
For women, orgasm is even more multifaceted and riddled with several myths and misconceptions about how it happens.
Typically, female orgasms stem from the perfect alignment of physiological, psychological, and emotional elements tied to the female anatomy, orgasm process, and different types of orgasms.
During sexual arousal, women experience enhanced blood flow to their erogenous zones.
The increased blood flow heightens the heart rate. It increases sensitivity in the genitals, usually the clitoris, vagina, and cervix, as well as the nipple and other zones.
Here is a beginner’s guide to female orgasms
What happens, and what does it feel like?
Unlike men, women can have an orgasm immediately after another because their broader sexual response to stimulation is different.
Usually, it begins with excitement of the sensitive areas and the genital areas that enhances lubrication in the vaginal area.
Once the excitement kicks, the arousal deepens, and the clitoris becomes even more subtle to make the vagina ready for and anticipate penetration.
Continued stimulation of the clitoris, G-spot, and other erogenous zones translates into the urge to release the sexual tension that builds up.
The release of the tension follows several bouts of involuntary muscle contractions.
The contractions produce varying pleasure feelings (orgasms) with different lengths.
Once the intense pleasure feelings subside, the body retreats to the pre-aroused state, where the heart rate slows and the vagina retreats to normal size.
Orgasms evoke different feelings in women. Some typically get intense pleasure in the erogenous zones while the rest experience the feeling throughout their body.
Others feel relaxed and joyous after pleasuring themselves because the stimulation comes with endorphins.
Here are a few tips on how to enhance the orgasm experience.
Explore and Understand Your Body
The key to a successful orgasm is to understand your body and know the pleasure points.
Take time to understand what works for you and what makes you feel giddy and great.
Experts recommend masturbation because it helps women understand their anatomy and the effect of each stimulation on the erogenous zones.
As you understand your body, you also need to know that orgasms come in different types:
- Vaginal Orgasms: Achievable through penetration. Vaginal orgasm happens when penetration foreplay culminates into penetration and stimulation of the G-spot alongside other erogenous areas. To enjoy this experience, you need to prioritise your attention on the A-spot, usually the region at the front of the vaginal opening. Touching the A-spot is exceptional for enhancing lubrication and experiencing a pronounced vaginal orgasm. You can use your fingers or a sex toy if you do not have a partner. The trick is to excite your vaginal walls and experimenting with different widths. Use a blend of motion and pressure to maximise the pleasure.
- Clitoral Orgasms: Achievable through clitoral stimulation. From experience, women describe clitoral stimulation as intense because it is fixated and focused on the direct stimulation of the clitoris. It is perfect for full-body orgasms because you can use toys or the tip of your finger to achieve the feel-good feeling in this zone. Rubbing the clitoris builds an exceptional sensation. Most women describe the feeling as ecstatic because the more pressure they apply with every motion, the more intense it is. Stroking the clitoris is a sure way of making most women wet; the trick is in deciphering the ideal motion direction to make this happen.
- Cervical Orgasms: Sends big waves to the entire body as it involves going deep. If you are a fan of doggy style, this is the type of orgasm you experience with the deep penetrations of each stroke. Pro tip: Always start slow before gradually graduating to fast and deep strokes to maximise the pleasure build-up.
- Blended Orgasms: Entails pleasure from stimulating a combination of different erogenous zones. Blended orgasms emanate from the simultaneous excitement of the clitoris and other spots within the vagina.
Communicate with Your Partner
For those in relationships or with partners, communication could be the missing link between you and your orgasms during sex.
Talk to your partner about the little things you like during sex or foreplay to make the sexual experience more satisfying. Communication eliminates the self-doubts or preconceived ideas that both of you may have about sex.
Try different sex positions and do Kegel Exercises.
Trying different sex positions is a sure way of helping you find the perfect spot that triggers your orgasm because each position comes with different levels of stimulation.
Make it playful and change position each time you feel uncomfortable until you find that sweet spot.
Kegel exercise can also help you orgasm by enhancing the pelvic floor muscles.
These muscles are responsible for the relaxation and contraction of the pelvic muscles, which are critical to regulating urine flow and releasing intense orgasms.
Use Lubrication and Explore Fantasies
Lubrication and blend of sex toys can also help you achieve orgasms.
Lubrication minimises friction-related discomfort during sex and increases the likelihood of orgasms.
Sex toys, on the other hand, can enhance the stimulation and help you achieve more pronounced orgasms with the additional pleasure from the curated effect.
Most women achieve orgasms more easily with toys.
Do not forget to prioritise your fantasies because sexual fantasies are essential for maximum arousal.
When you are open about your fantasies, you create a conducive environment for a relaxed and intense sexual experience.
